This is my first keynote in 2021! I went to Edmonton, Canada, to deliver one of my most profound and fascinating speeches. The best moments cover a wide range of topics focusing on curiosity, the ingredients to happiness, the definition of success, how to stay grateful, how to stop worrying about other people's opinions. Be sure to check the timestamps in the comment section for all the topics covered... Enjoy!
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Gary Vaynerchuk is one of the world’s leading marketing experts, a New York Times bestselling author, and the chairman of VaynerX, a modern-day communications company and the active CEO of VaynerMedia, a contemporary global creative and media agency built to drive business outcomes for their partners. He is a highly popular public speaker, and a prolific investor with investments in companies such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Venmo, Coinbase, Slack, and Uber. Gary is a board/advisory member of Bojangles’ Restaurants, MikMak, Pencils of Promise, and is a longtime Well Member of Charity: Water. He’s also an avid sports card investor and collector. He lives in New York City.
Thanks for watching!
Check out another series on my channel:
Tea With GaryVee (Fan Q&A Series): https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfA33-E9P7FBahSYlSAjOMGsuRPLMWWEO
Overrated Underrated (Hot-takes on Culture): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TUSNSqA62uI&t=0s
Gary Vaynerchuk Original Films: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfA33-E9P7FAvnrOcgy4MvIcCXxoyjuku
Trash Talk: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfA33-E9P7FDelN4bXFgtJuczC9HHmm2-
WeeklyVee: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfA33-E9P7FBPjdQcF6uedz9fdk8XKn-b
Gary Vaynerchuk is one of the world’s leading marketing experts, a New York Times bestselling author, and the chairman of VaynerX, a modern-day communications company and the active CEO of VaynerMedia, a contemporary global creative and media agency built to drive business outcomes for their partners. He is a highly popular public speaker, and a prolific investor with investments in companies such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Venmo, Coinbase, Slack, and Uber. Gary is a board/advisory member of Bojangles’ Restaurants, MikMak, Pencils of Promise, and is a longtime Well Member of Charity: Water. He’s also an avid sports card investor and collector. He lives in New York City.
What just happened between the three of us is the single reason that garyvee the character exists way too long. Guys looked up to guys on dumb trying to do quick cash and mercedes and flick. I'm here to squash that, because there's plenty of people with good intent, who've been miscommunicated to take shortcuts and do you've got your perspective. I just want to be happy.
Don't you want to be happy? What was really interesting about covet for all the challenges that it had for a lot of us? You know it allowed us to slow down and ponder and for me, especially, it allowed me to tap into some things that i haven't historically talked about and and i'm grateful for that um for all the things i talk about around self-awareness or gratitude, or things of That nature, what's incredibly clear to me, what's incredibly clear to me at this point in my career, is that from a business standpoint and clearly from a life standpoint, i think we grossly underestimate perspective. I really genuinely believe that life is exactly as you see it. I believe that there are inherently people who are cynical and because of that they're just going to believe things are not good or stacked against them, and i think there are people who are optimistic. I think there are people who are practical and delusional and all those things that i think many of you have heard about.
But there are a couple things that really stood out for me um during this last 18 months, and it really is interesting that one of the categories - i'm spending a lot of time on right now that a lot of you know is nft land and and the Way i got there is what's most interesting to me and when i thought about what do i want to talk about tonight, what can actually bring some value? What's something that somebody can build off of? I really think it's time we start talking about curiosity a little bit more, so i've become incredibly passionate about curiosity. I think that in self-reflection mode, so much of what works for me there's many things that are part of the equation. There's many ingredients that get me there, but curiosity is not something i saw or really even understood as part of the equation, and i think, when i think of the collective in this room, something that is very obvious to me is in our current society. We start to demonize curiosity pretty quickly.
We get a we get a couple of years of it as a kid, but then just subconsciously. It's not some crazy agenda but subconsciously. We start going into places that overvalue how it's been done, the black and white the system. So much of what i've always felt as an entrepreneur was a vulnerability of a school system is not the cliche stuff that you might see in my content, but just by nature, all of us spending the majority of our youth in a system that grades us every 90 days and we pander to a subjective reality within that really sets us up to eliminate our creativity, and our curiosity makes us subconsciously conform to the short term and inherently makes us lack patience. The other thing i'm spending a lot of time on is how much we struggle with our relationship in time and with time you know we get sold so many things like life is short, which you know. I think all of us at this point know, depending on the context that you look at a statement or a situation. It changes the altercation, but so many of the rules in society of when you're supposed to have your life figured out get married accomplish, is predicated on a world where people live to 45 years old. It's just the reality of it.
So much of what we're affected by is how our grandparents were affected by their parents and grandparents and those were dying at 40.. Of course, you should have your life figured out at 30 when you're dead at 47., but we haven't adjusted. You know 1880 may seem a long time ago, but it's stunningly not and when life expectancy is in the late 30s and early 40s and now we're 75. 85.
90. 95. I just think that there's so much confusion in the system and i just think that we need to have different conversations. Let me give an example, a different conversation that we need in the business world.
That's where i'll keep it, but it's clearly a societal statement. Is i'm genuinely struggling why anybody should not be kind i've watched in the business world for the last 20 years, people justify being cruel to the people that they're a manager of or their admins, because they're stressed, i'm sorry, i scolded you, you don't get it. The client had me in a bad day. We have completely accepted bad behavior off of i'm really passionate about this.
If you're a leader by by nature, your job is to stop pressure at your level, not deploy more more of it. Underneath you, i think that we need to just do better. I think that people in business are confused. I think that the the way that business is branded is misbranded.
I think people think that if you're kind you get walked over - and i think that is absolutely asinine - i think that a lot of people who claim they're being walked all over are actually just trying to manipulate situations and it didn't work out the way they wanted To so they use, i got, walked all over as excuse, i'm kind as none of you are walking over me. So in the short term - and we are short-term structured - and i think that i'm passionate at this point in my life - to really start talking about the nuances that are very clear to me - that sustainable things are grounded in very good virtues and that we have to Start recognizing that soft skills will continue to dominate and gain momentum, because hard skills are starting to be commoditized and, as technology eats up things that people can do with ai and many other technology advances, robots, they'll, kill us in the end, we'll probably all be gone, But the robots will win, your children will probably get killed by robots kidding, but maybe not, but i think for all of us as we navigate these next two three four five decades. I think it's incredibly important to take a step back and really recognize how much is changing all these changes, whether it's blockchain or a mature social media or all the other technology. Things are fundamentally changing the world. The railroad system really changed. Right airplanes really changed things like the television really changed things. I believe that all of us are incapable, including myself, to really wrap our heads around what a mature internet with an emerging blockchain means to society, and my intuition is that what it's definitely causing is a very big opportunity for soft skills and other things that we Haven't talked about in entrepreneurship, in my brain and in my company i call it the honey empire. I believe you get more out of honey than vinegar, but let there be no confusion.
I'm trying to build an empire which is not a soft word. People struggle with contradictions, i'm incredibly ambitious and tenacious i'm incredibly fast day by day, but i'm incredibly patient. I think people struggle with patience and ambition, even though it's exactly what you see if you study things that have been built that are meaningful, and so i think, nuances, context really matters and we've lost that we've become an incredibly hot, take headline reading society. Clearly, politically, everybody understands that.
That's the easiest thing to read. It goes beyond that gary. What's up, what's up, i'm freaking out, don't i am! This is crazy for me guys i mean we have garyvee in the house lots of questions for gary tonight, starting with this video question from service credit union hi gary. What is the most notable disadvantage? A micro or small business would have in today's market.
More importantly, what is a key attribute a business owner should have in overcoming it. Can i get him to play it again? What's the biggest vulnerability, what is the most notable disadvantage of a micro small business in today's market, and what is the key attribute? Slash trait a business owner should have to overcome it, and this is coming from michael michael. I think the the biggest vulnerability that a smaller medium-sized business has is their perspective, that their size is their vulnerability. The it's it fascinates me how much people love to think about why they're not growing and no question.
This is the luxury of getting so much content sent to me in text, email, dms, everybody goes to this person got more fundraising. This is a bigger company. They opened a location in my area, there's a very specific reason why david and goliath is a story that still plays out in our society. The biggest mistake and the biggest opportunity for a smaller business is to be david right.
The problem with small businesses is, they inherently want to be goliath. They want to be bigger, but they don't have that resource. The problem with goliath is they're, slow and audacious. It's actually very easy to build, compete with big companies today because of the size and scale of the internet. We see it so much if, if goliath always was going to continue to win well, ibm would still be the biggest company. Microsoft would have never let google happen. Google would have never let facebook happen. I think you need to when you're small.
You need to lean into scaling unscalable behaviors for small businesses and small business owners. Where do they get the confidence to grow their business and what might be a very saturated market? What's the alternative you decided to have a business seriously, though right like like, like, like the confidence, comes from the audacity of thinking that you can build a life for yourself where you pay for yourself, and nobody else is doing it for you. You already made that decision. The alternative is go, get a job and shut down your company, like you know it's, i people love capitalism and entrepreneurship when it's working for them right, the second, it's not they don't like it.
I mean i'm so tired of all my friends that are capitalists, i'm a capitalist, which means i'm willing to go to zero and if i lose, i lost but like everyone's like such a great entrepreneur and then somebody bigger, comes along and takes market share and they're Crying about some everybody hates when the government's involved until they need the government, stop being soft love, it stop being soft everyone myself, including, but it's a very i want to stay on this. It's a very important point. This is what you signed up for. If you don't have the confidence, you can build it through historical staying a lot.
You know how many people here clap up if you've had your own business for more than five years, the level of admiration i have for everybody who just clapped it's hard. Your confidence should come from the fact that you're part of a small group of people that decided to take on the risk to begin with anybody who just clapped and did it for has been doing it for five years. That's remarkable um but don't be audacious. If somebody big comes along they're better than you, then that's what you're saying don't cry about it.
Don't try to change the rules because it's not working for you, my favorite version of it is, you were small. You got bigger and hurt other people, but now somebody else came along and is bigger than you and you're crying about it right. You weren't, crying when you were taking other people's money, so don't cry when i'll take yours. I love it all right.
This is from mark sky on twitter, my girlfriend and i are quitting our careers to take on an ambitious 20 000 kilometer bike, ride and paddle from home in canada to a summit as a charity adventure that lasts 18 months. What is the best way to gain exposure um? The best way to gain exposure is to do the most obvious thing to everybody in this room. Anybody could sit in this seat and answer this, which is to document the entire journey yeah. The question is: are you good enough at it? Everybody knows the answer. You start a vlog and you put on youtube. You chop up all the pieces of content you put on tick, tock and instagram and twitter, but are they compelling? Do they know how to post that content? Will they reply to all the comments? Um people's lack of patience with building exposure is why most people don't have any. It took me two years of wine library tv before anybody gave a. I did it five days a week for two years now, gary in one of your podcasts uh, you said something super commendable that you actually had a position in your company for someone to read the comments reply to people and from there you guys create this assessment.
As to what your content should be, can we talk a little bit about the importance of replying to comments and acknowledging people in social media, like in the prior session, to your point? We have a. We have a very prominent role at vaynermedia called pcs post creative strategist. These individuals, jobs are to read every comment from every post of a brand and then use their psychology anthropology skills to make observations from the comments by reading the qualitative data and inform an insight that makes the next piece of content the amount of people that hit Me up every day is hundreds thousands of people who are sad that they're not growing and then occasionally i used to do it all the time. Now i do it occasionally.
I will go look at their account. 90 of those people. Don't even reply to the 15 people that leave a comment if you're in this audience and you're, sad that your profile is not growing on the business side or the personal side, and you are not replying to every comment you get from the content you are putting Out you are audacious. Thank you.
I love this next question from michael on twitter. He asks what are the key principles to happiness and success in life um. I believe it's simplicity. I really do.
I think i think, for the people that know me in my life. I'm really simple, you know i really enjoy my career. I love this like i'm, you couldn't even imagine how humbled i am by people's interest and what i talk about, but i think the key to happiness is being content while being ambitious and i think being content comes from gratitude. I'm so grateful for what i have, and i've always been, that way that all this special stuff that has been happening doesn't mean enough to me.
This is not where my self-worth comes in the garyvee crap and the collapse and the follower like it's incredible, but it's not what i aspire to it's, not how i see my value - and i think the only way to be happy is to have a quiet, mind And i think a quiet mind comes from a balance of very deep humility and true perspective of understanding that you, like you, just genuinely understand that you don't mean in the scheme of things. But you aspire in your behavior to mean something, and i think it's a very interesting balance and i think it works incredibly well. I just wish people. People are just impossibly addicted to outside affirmation to acceptance, and i wish people lived in their own cocoon and just did the things that made them happy. So many people would aspire to make so much less money if they didn't care about what other people think and would be dramatically happier dramatically happier, and i wish that on society now, what do you do when yeah, it's a good one, they're all good ones? It's it's a tough conversation because in the business world, so many people think that scoring is based on how big your net worth is or how much money you make. And it's it's really unfortunate because i think troop red entrepreneurship almost doesn't give a about all the collateral that comes along with it. It's art you just love doing it, and we've got to find our balance. Much like the chat.
I had up front as i spend the next half decade, refining what i talked to you about up there and what i'm talking about right now is we have to change the definition of success we have to. It cannot be the flex. We cannot put expensive watches and cars and bank accounts on a pedestal. We we must get away from that, but that doesn't mean we demonize it either we have to make it about the process of the game.
We've got to find. We've got to find our way because right now we're over here, we've got to find this now gary tell me when, when life hits, when the storm of life hits because we've all been there, no matter who you are, how do you remain in that state and That space of gratitude and balance very easily, when your entire life is only predicated on the health and well-being of a small group of people. You love more than breathing. Nothing scares you i love it.
I mean the first couple months of cove at vayner was a very weird spot. I don't build it for profit, so we didn't have profit. You know i built it for growth. We were very weird in the u.s, the way they subsidized businesses.
We were in the middle, we weren't small enough and we weren't big enough. So we got nothing. All of our clients are humongous and all of them right away said we're going to slow down the way we pay you. You know it was a very big challenge and i just remember having the greatest moment with myself when it was super scary week, one saying: oh, my god, everything i've been telling them is true.
If this company goes out of business i'll be beyond okay, i love that yeah. I have a question because what you said prior to what you just said, really hit home for me, because in my previous role in my previous job, i actually attached my worth and my identity to income my job, my work, my schedule, social media, because i worked So hard to get it, i fell in kind of that loophole. Then life hit me with a very big wake-up call and i was stuck with this super uncomfortable feeling of my internal changing and if i didn't change, my external it just wasn't working and i became a very unhappy person so just in case there's. Anyone in the crowd and in the fans in the audience anyone listening online who can relate what would be your advice to them, to have that courage to start redefining success in their life that they can. You know like everybody's, so obsessed on what they've done and said, like the greatest gift in the world is the ability to be comfortable in changing your mind. I love it. Actually, i have a very different thing to say right now: we need to start hanging out with 90 year olds. More, i mean this.
You wan na you wan na you wan na, do something that will bring you an incredible amount of value, but also bring someone else. An incredible amount of value go donate your time to a retirement home for one week. You will learn a lesson real fast. That 99 of the stuff that all of you are right now thinking about means jack.
This is a game of perspective. I don't understand how we don't understand that we, you must shift perspective into simplicity, which then makes the ability to do what we all do so much more palpable because there's no weight on it, because it doesn't matter as much, which then inherently makes it more. Enjoyable, of course, you're going to burn out if your entire self-worth is and how good your business is doing. Of course, you're going to burn out a funny thing happens.
You don't burn out from games. When you make your career, a game, things change very quickly. I love that i'm going to start the clap on that one all right. Next, we have a video question from a facebook winner, matt hoover, it's matt with tubertowing here in edmonton, uh, absolutely love what you do.
The focus big time on the humility aspect we're five years stronger on 20 to 30 year-over-year. We got 20 albertans working with us and just just rocking it. Our question for you is: how do we get from the small business to the medium-sized business? We got managers and we're helping them succeed, but how do we let go? How do we grow that to the next level? You know: what's tough about video questions, is you want to ask the you know? There's the next question there. It's like you know again.
I talk about these thematics a lot and i will repeat them to my death. The best way to go from a small business to a medium business is by deploying patients and doing what you did to get to become a small business. Of course, there's strategies. I've been very consistent about this.
For 15 years, i put out a very simple message that has been uncomfortably historically true. If you understand where the customer's attention is - and you know how to make pictures, videos and written words for those platforms, you will grow for that. Gentleman's business, if he got great at linkedin ads, his top line revenue would grow. The question is: how is he judging himself by the way, what is even a small or medium business like? What are the rules of all this? It's, like is 5 million. Small is 50 million medium like what is this, i'm sure there's some answer to it. If you google it, but everybody's answer is different right, like what like it's, these constant games of making these things for us. You know what that is. That's the 90-day school great.
The are you trying to do for tomorrow. What is that he's going to make his own subjective call if he's a medium business or a small business, we're playing dumb games out here? Oh my gosh, i love it. I love it gary. You speak a lot.
What's a medium-sized business, uh honest to god, i'm with you who effing knows but really is it 50 somebody? What's a medium-sized business, no, no revenue, not people! You, five million bucks. Somebody just said: that's a medium-sized business, that's small as to me, that's a business perspective, but this is important to understand. I'm not right, i'm not cool, i'm not special. It just doesn't work for my brain for somebody else, a million's insane! That's insane! Do you know how hard it is to build a million dollar business and oh by the way? What about the fact that you change over time? What about 23 a 5 million dollar business is a medium-sized business, but then you're 36? And it's not or it goes down like we just we play in these semantics - that don't mean anything except make us anxious.
You speak to uh patients a lot and i'm very curious to hear this answer because i am not patient at all and i'm one of these people, where i have this grand idea and if there isn't this outcome that i'm looking for within the week. I immediately think that i'm failing and i'm doing a miserable job, and no one cares. So if there's anyone out there who's like me, what advice would you give them in being patient with their business? Do you remember in sixth grade when you had a zit and you were scared used to go to school? No, but everybody else had zits too yeah. That's my answer to that question.
I love that this. This is where humility is a superpower. You may see bravado on stage my my happiness is grounded in humility. You know what humidity humility looks like in this scenario.
Why, if you don't think you're important? It's almost like your results, don't matter who are you disappointing yourself? Those are voices that were put inside of you by somebody else, but what, if you're a perfectionist like what, if you expect 12 out of 10, if you're a perfectionist you're insecure? Well, that's a good hit me right between the eyes without one well, if you're getting a shitload of views and a lot of not a lot of conversions, it doesn't sound like it's a platform issue. It sounds like your offering isn't good? No! No! It's not that by the way, by the way. This is why business is so funny to me. That's a good thing that wasn't a bad thing that wasn't a razz. That's a okay cause because listen to how the question was asked, i'm not on the right platform! You're getting plenty of attention, you're, not converting, which means you have to understand that what you're offering isn't landing - and this is where curiosity and humility - to take a step back and say how do i tweak this right? Because you might be an inch away brother? You might literally have to drop the price by 10. Bucks add a day, change a word and everything flows, but what people often do is they go to the front to fix when the back is the issue? It's never. This everyone here is obsessed with the sink. It's the well, you know what's so crazy.
Now, i'm gon na get up, listen what what you just did about. I see his true intent, but when you were squirming with everything i said no in a good way in a good way. I know it's the. What just happened between the three of us is the single reason that garyvee the character exists way too long.
Guys looked up to guys on dumb trying to do quick cash and mercedes and, like i'm here, to squash that, because there's plenty of people with good intent, who've been miscommunicated to to take shortcuts and do okay, let's keep going okay, all right! This is a tweet from rob. How does one balance family life, two small businesses and a full-time job by not judging themselves? I love that. Can we go deeper into that? How does that look easy? There is no such thing as work-life balance. Every family is different.
There you know there is no such thing called balance you're, the judge in the jury. Just like a medium-sized business or a small business. We do these things to make ourselves upset. We have to stop.
How do you balance it by trying you try you try to go to the recital you try to go to the parent-teacher conference. You try to run your business, you try and if you try your hardest and can't do it, you should not judge yourself. What is can't yeah? What's can't do it? What does that even mean you missed a baseball game? Come on the kids can have you miss a baseball game? You you're everything. It's true, it's true.
Every single person here has 9 700 things. They can think of that. Their parents up and they still love them and oh by the way, forgot 8 trillion things their parents did. That was up.
We are in some crazy dynamic of like over analyzing everything so much with a layer of cynicism that is making everybody go crazy. If you are a good person and you're trying truly trying and not trying to hurt anybody, you're phenomenal enough, how do we? How do we eliminate that outside noise? Sometimes you know you not caring about other people's opinions once and for all. High school high school is over, stop playing in it. It's over. You left you're, not in high school. You are, i know, but everybody else stop it's over. What? What who your mom tell your mom to go herself she up too, what you're spelling? What who, what just living for other people's judgment, everybody else sucks too now now, if you're gon na tell your mom that how do you have the courage to have that kind of conversation with her? Because you don't say it the way, i'm saying it. You say it a different way.
You say mom. I appreciate your opinion of how i'm being a father, how about the time you did this that shuts them up real fast. I love it. I love it like.
I just don't understand how people are so deeply into this affirmation: culture keeping up with the joneses. It's just really a problem, and it's getting worse by the second and newsletter. It's not social media's fault! It's your fault! This lack of accountability is disgusting. We have to go deeper and we have to be more optimistic and positive.
We have to become more optimistic and positive. You know why you get to decide life just so. You know news alert, you're deciding what life actually is. It is your subjective call and if you are, if you're like well gary you, i grew up in a family that was very pessimistic and this is what it is well, then, what do you want, then go to therapy right like do something fight for it? Fight to be happy, listen to positive, that's a funny game.
Miraculous thing happens when you cut out your most pessimistic friend, you become more optimistic, and let me tell you about complaining. The only people that are listening to your complaining are people that extremely love you, but are enablers or your other loser friends and you're, just complaining to each other. How about those people who um? Because i'm sometimes like this? I have high anxiety in certain moments and i create this narrative, this storyline in my head, where i'm like this person's judging me because of this or this this person's mad at me, because he didn't look at me today and didn't say hello and i said hello To him, how do you escape that mental block, because sometimes that's why i make it pretend that you're gon na die tomorrow? Actually, i love that, i'm being serious, i'm giving you my answer, how the am i gon na care about johnny thinking that i'm not good. Looking today, if i'm gon na die tomorrow, you think i'm gon na care about that.
We don't have perspective all of a sudden, miraculously people stopped worrying about a lot of things when coveted hit. That was funny changed. We just care about dumb, because the world is too good. How about that one? How about that one? My friends, we've decided it's so bad, because it's so good. Look at the data. What can i tell you too much prosperity? This is where again, humility comes in. So much of this good for me, it's all so many entrepreneurs struggle with the word luck. I do.
I worked so hard since i was 14 years old. I struggle with it, but i'm incredibly lucky. I was born in a communist country and was in the right time in the right place. My grandfathers both spent years in jail for being entrepreneurs in russia, and i get clapped for in edmonton right.
You know so so so i i lived in a studio apartment. The size of this stage with multiple family members, so i i have perspective i'm grateful for everything i have. We lack gratitude. You understand that right.
You lack gratitude. There are almost two billion people on earth that don't have access to clean water. Are you a think about what i just said? There are over a billion people on earth that don't have access to clean water and you're, complaining that your instagram's not growing you, okay, this next photo. Can i can we stay on this one.
I'd love to i'd! Love are we good guys i'd love to you want to take anxiety out of the system. You want to be happier look at the world and be grateful for what you have everybody's so interested in paying attention to people that have more than them. They don't recognize that there's way more people that have less than them, so so gary. What do you do to stay? Grounded to stay in the space of gratitude? Is there are there affirmations that you say, do you meditate? Do you spend time with your family? What is your source of that that gratitude? My source is that i was extremely fortunate with the luck of the dna game and outrageous levels of remarkable parenting by my mom.
That's me, that's me, that's that's why i stand up here today, not thinking anything of me all this things that i'm spewing, i'm just a vehicle passing through what my mom gave to me and i'm sure she got you know like. I don't think, there's anything special about me. I know what i'm saying is special and important. I know a lot of other people know it to be true.
I have so much judgment on me in the world because i am obsessed with talking about positive things. In a world where anger and darkness is loud and happiness is quiet, what you're seeing on the mainstream media and social media is the loud dark minority? The problem is the quiet. Happy majority is quiet. If you're happy do me a favor share it and not flex.
It don't show them you're happy with your porsche rick talk about real. This is real talk here. You uh you're, a son of immigrant parents, i'm a daughter of immigrant parents. My beautiful mom is here today her and my dad escaped communist poland back in the 80s created this unbelievable life here in canada, and i remember listening to you on a podcast.
I think maybe the moment where i truly fell in love with garyvee, and you said your greatest gift was being the son of immigrant parents. 100 and adversity is the foundation of success. This macro prosperity is the foundation of anxiety. You don't worry about everything we talk about in society. When you don't have food gary did you ever have anxiety? Did you ever put these pressures on yourself when you started first creating content? How did you get if you ever were in this space of doubt and fear and insecurity? How did you get out of that bubble if you that the most insecure place i've ever been in was the fear of confrontation which blows people's mind because on st on stage in public persona, it's candor is my strength, but in real life i hated candor, because My father was very aggressive with candor but very negative, and i wasn't able to separate the vehicle he was deploying the candor in from the value of candor. So for 25 years of my career i was anxious every time i decided somebody had to get fired. It completely put me into spirals, i would avoid it. It was always sloppy it only to a t.
Every person - that's ever been close to me in business, that works for me or worked for me. That doesn't love me is based on one thing, my inability to be cancerous and it's been a very big shift for me in the last three four years. The new book is called 12 and a half it's about 13 attributes, but i call it 12 and a half because i'm only halfway through my journey on kind candor and i needed to create the word kind in front of candor to even begin to deploy. Candor - and it has led to an incredible amount of unhappiness in my life and career - was my inability to be candice, which is wild, because my content is incredibly candice because i'm not talking to anybody.
I'm talking to everybody, but when it's steve or sally or johnny or nicole or karen, it was very hard for me, and so now i do it. Would you change? Would you change anything about your journey or your process? Even the negative moments, the life-changing moments, the things that you didn't love if you're here right now - and you could of course not, of course not. It would be crazy. I love that.
I agree. It's all about the process, the the number one people looking backwards backwards. Dwelling it's over, i don't know if you guys heard, we have not invented time machines, yet you're not going back anyway. People sit and dwell and they make these subjective calls.
This keeps going back to the theme of tonight. They make subjective calls that that's where their life got ruined and they decide that that's where their life got ruined for 47 years. They think about it. It's no.
I think i'm incredibly grateful and i always do a fun game with myself, which is maybe something on paper would have been something great, but maybe that would have led me to going over here and that's where i would have gotten hit by a bus. You know, like i believe in that i'm very i'm very imaginative of it could be worse. It could be worse. It's just completely one big game of gratitude and i want i i come and do this because i'm passionate about one person in this audience. Emailing me in nine years saying i was in edmonton in 2021 and i wasn't grateful you're right i was spoiled. I was entitled, i was delusional and i practiced it and it changed my life. I believe in that, because i'm on the receiving end of that now, 15 years later, i like it, it feels good. It makes me feel nice, it's a better feeling, it's when you're, when you're full, when you're full, when you're good you have nowhere to go but trying to make it good for everybody else, which is why i know that i have to deploy sympathy and empathy for Everyone who's mean to me because they're not good they're, hurt so they're trying to drag me down to be hurt with them.
People struggle with negative comments. I'm gon na save you i'm gon na make you get real comfortable with negative comments on social media and in life. They're hurt, don't feel bad for you feel bad for them. They're, showing you their hand, they're upset, they're, hurt you're.
Welcome my man all right. Everyone. Please give it up for mr garyvee himself. Thank you.
So much really. Thank you. Thank you so much. I love you edmonton! Thank you.
Thank you. Thank you. So much. Thank you.
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Kind candor and gratitude– consistent gratitude! Those are the keys I'm taking from this. Thank you, Gary!
Sir I am great fan of your’s:
One question:- As you said (you are grateful for what you have and it’s a lot) who you are grateful too.
I know you wanna have your hockey team it’s your goal.
My goal is that my hockey team playing against yours team.
No offence
Yes! Our relationship with time is f*cked! And yes, we can be a kind and still kick ass in business
Definitely addicted to outside affirmation. Also respond to comments.
Societal affirmations? It's like that everywhere though.
I’m a good person, I’m trying and that is ENOUGH 🙌🏽❤️
The PCS (post content strategist) idea is brilliant. You're basically always doing market research on your audience and getting new content ideas
I think this pandemic has taught alot of people the important of multiple streams of income, unfortunately having a job doesn't mean security…No rich man or woman made it through salary, investing will be wise.
When I get done we will sell a caricature for 1mill
Thanks, Gary! You always seem to know exactly what I’m dealing with cause you always release exactly what I need to hear in the moment. I just had an interaction with my boss where he told me more or less that I need to care less about my employees, that this is just a job and to more or less be meaner. That isn’t how I see myself as a leader and I told him as much. I want to come to work and care for my employees. I can have hard conversations, but still maintain dignity, respect and caring while having them. Yes it is harder and it takes time, but it is so worth it. I’m not here to burn through people, but to help them grow. Thank you!
I was there! I saw Gary in person after all these years of listening to him. I even met him before the show. It was a thrill to thank him in person for everything he’s done for me. Thanks Gary and Drock for being so nice in person. You told me to email you the Paul McCartney story. Did you get it?
Dope sneakers Gary! Which lot # are those dunk offwhites?
I live in Edmonton and my biggest regret was missing this key note!! So thankful Gary made a video about it!
Get me on a podcast with Tom read and I will pick him apart I have seen his work in Detroit Michigan and he is terrible ❣️
BRILLIANT! If you don’t have a parent, sibling or mentor who helps you break the paradigm of our educational systems you’ll have a hard time finding yourself. You’ll end up copying “bull shit”. We should ALL have some sort of outside interest where we can just be curious. Truth; everyone wants stuff so quickly that they become disappointed and drop off. Don’t do that. Grow with it instead 💕
Gary, please have Elizabeth Gilbert on your podcast. She wrote Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic. Curiosity is her jam.